I, Deja C. Spears have never been in a relationship. I don't complain about it either (unless it's like midnight and I'm having an annual meltdown where i'm in my feelings listening to a playlist of love songs and crying while talking to Lavender.)
The first response I get when involved in conversations about my lack of a love life is always "why?" ....Because I'm actually a reptilian shape-shifter from Norway?? Like, what does that even mean? I genuinely know not how to answer such a question. Sometimes I respond with "I'm picky," which is very true for the most part and I do have quite high standards especially when it comes to things like Jesus and sense of humor. Other times, I respond with "eh idk just not God's timing I guess" which is most likely the case. An answer I give to those who are carnal-minded is...well, it just hasn't happened yet. Do I think I'm "forever alone?" obviously not. Do boys like me? Yes. Do I like boys? Ya. Have I been involved in anything close to a romantic relationship? No. Do I think there's something wrong with me? No. It just simply hasn't happened yet. Dassit. There are, of course, some things I wish I could experience now like wearing my boyfriends sweater, or to have someone do things like make a mixtape of songs that remind them of me, or to just chill at 2 am and talk about stuff. (I'm over here sweating, trying not to make this sound like a cheesy tumblr post so pls bare with me) Desiring...but not desperate. I mean I sure do have fun wearing my own sweaters and making my own playlists. Also, less responsibilities. Honestly, it's really not that bad. I mean, I plan on dating to marry anyway, which means any romantic relationship during my high school years would have been pointless, plus, I am only 21. I still have a whole life to live, places to see, and many, many, many other people to meet. It will happen when God planned for it to, and I'll know that it is what He has ordained. I'm gonna be absolutely fine. Why complain? So, until God sends some dude who is anointed to fulfill that role, someone who will pray on my behalf and isn't a meanie and *insert a list of many other humble yet practical requirements* and until I am spiritually prepared to do things like set boundaries when it comes to physical contact and meet somebody's WHOLE FAMILY I am ....chillin. It could happen tomorrow, it could happen in a few months, who knows. If you are going through a similar situation, relax. It is not the end of the world. You can very easily be happy and single. Plus, I think it's best to learn how to be content while you're single so when you are in a relationship it will just be another thing that makes you happy, and NOT something you depend on to be happy. Anyway, no man on this earth can fulfill you or fill the void in your heart but Jesus so ummmmm you should probably start a relationship with Him first before you drive your boyfriend up a wall with all of your >needs<. PS... if you're wondering, I have not kissed anyone either. leavemealone xoxo, Deja |
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