14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
We know the verse, but I feel as though many fail to realize that unbeliever does not necessarily mean someone who does not accept Jesus as their Lord and savior, but someone who does not bear the fruit of the Word of God. Someone who is not on the same level as you spiritually. Just because someone has a relationship with Jesus, serves in the church, can quote bible verses, and goes through all of the motions, does not mean they are God's best for you. In this, I am not saying the person you are meant to marry is supposed to be perfect by any means, but beneficial towards your walk with Jesus. Some months ago, The Lord began to fix my attention towards believers I know who are in unequally yoked marriages, and the unnecessary stress and spiritual warfare they all go through. The disagreements that could so easily be worked through if the other person had the heart of Christ and was obedient to the word of God. At that point, I realized how much of an inconvenience the boy I was talking to towards the end of the Summer would have been towards my relationship with Christ. I began to thank Jesus that it ended. I no longer felt sad or upset, but victorious yet, remorseful that I had allowed that situation get past hello. I thought about the time that I had wasted, and wondered what would have happened if I had submitted to Jesus by not continuing to talk to that person. I once read a Tweet which said, "choose wisely, your future spouse either becomes your prayer partner, or a prayer point." That statement shook me to my core, and if my friends thought I had high standards before, boy they are in for a treat now. I want my future husband to be able to "wash me in the Word," as Ephesians 5:26 says. I want Him to be quick to listen and slow to anger as James 1:19 says. I want a husband who is good enough to submit to and I'm not going to settle for less. Once again, no one is perfect, and there are going to be scratches and dents in every potential mate but many of us jump into romance, hiding our eyes from the wheels that are falling off of the vessel, intentionally distracted by how nice the paint job is. We try it out anyway, expecting a good result from the mess that we ignored, and complain and cry out to God when it falls apart. "Well, what should I look for in an equally yoked relationship, Deja?" Your significant other should only push you closer to Christ. He or she should be giving as much as they take, spiritually. They should make you want to flee sin. They should be understanding and supportive of your purpose. They should be a reflection of who Christ is. So...If you know you're involved with someone who is the opposite of any of the good traits I've listed above...cut it off. Blessings follow obedience, and you may not know it, but SO many people are looking to you as an example of what a follower of Christ is. So many people are waiting on our obedience. Corinthians 15:33 reads, "Do not be deceived: Bad company corrupts good morals." Guard your heart. Date with discernment. Test the fruit. Pray for confirmation before entering any kind of covenant. Be smart. Love, Deja xoxo |
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